Be willing to take risks and step outside of your comfort zone.
The first step to growth-oriented thinking is to be willing to take risks and step outside of your comfort zone. Taking risks is a key part of growing because it allows you to learn from experience and gain new skills that you wouldn’t otherwise have access to.
So how do you get started?
Start by seeking out new experiences, even if they make you uncomfortable. Make a point of trying something new on a daily basis: try new food, wear something different, or watch a movie that doesn’t usually interest you.
Try talking to someone in line at the grocery store or ordering something off the menu that sounds strange. All of these small things will help prime your brain for more significant changes down the road. It may take some time for your brain chemistry to adjust, but once it does these small changes will become a habit and you’ll find yourself looking for ways to test yourself on a larger scale.
Everyone fails sometimes and not just at big stuff like job interviews or marriage proposals—usually, we fail at relatively minor things like laughing too loudly in public or forgetting someone’s name in the middle of an introduction—but those failures are often more painful than any other simply because we care so much about what others think about us.
Luckily there are many tips out there for how not to fail when taking risks but one helpful strategy is remembering that even though it sucks failing doesn’t mean anything about whether or not people like us as individuals; maybe they didn’t care as much as we thought they did or maybe our failure was too minor to affect anyone else’s lives significantly.
The bottom line is that if we don’t take risks once in a while we can never truly grow so when possible it
Be open-minded and embrace change with a positive attitude.
Change is good. In fact, it’s usually necessary for growth to occur. It can be difficult or scary at first—I know this from experience, having moved across the country by myself as a young adult, started countless jobs in different areas of business, and had my world changed irrevocably when I became a parent—but if you keep an open mind and try to look on the bright side of things, you’ll find that it’s much easier to adapt than you think.
Be able to accept failure, learn from it, and move on.
- When you make a mistake or fall short of your goal, accept the failure and treat it as an opportunity to grow.
- Focus on the lesson learned from the failure, not the failure itself.
- Don’t be afraid to try again. Failure is just a learning experience and growth comes from trying again after failing.
Find the humor in things and laugh at yourself more often.
While a sense of humor can help you enjoy life more, it can also help you deal with the many stresses and setbacks that are part of work and family life. Laughter gives you a positive outlook on life and enables you to see the funny side of situations, which helps relieve stress.
You might find yourself laughing at your mistakes or something that didn’t go quite as planned. Humor can also be infectious and get those around you laughing too. This is particularly important if those close to you are going through a tough time – laughter can lift their moods just as much as yours.
Focus on what you want to do rather than what you want to avoid or escape from.
As you work on your growth-oriented mindset, it’s important to keep a positive focus. This means reframing your thoughts and rephrasing things in a positive light. For example, instead of focusing on what you want to avoid or escape from, focus on what you want to do.
- Stop thinking about negative things: The next time you think about something you don’t like—like that coworker who always speaks over you in meetings—quickly change your thought pattern to something else, like how much fun it was playing soccer with your kids the other day or how grateful you are for your best friend. Disrupting a negative train of thought before it gets rolling can help keep those thoughts out of your mind entirely.
- Replace negative words with positive ones: If someone asks how things are going and you normally say “fine,” try saying “wonderful!” instead. Even if this sounds overly optimistic at first, the more often you put yourself into a positive mind frame, the more natural it will become until it feels just right—and the better off you’ll feel as well!
Set short-term goals that are manageable and realistic.
By setting small goals that are realistic, you’re making a commitment to yourself to do what you can right now to achieve your long-term goals. This approach is easier than trying to tackle a large goal in one fell swoop. The following are some examples of manageable short term goals:
- I’m going to wake up an hour earlier each day this week so that I have enough time to make a healthy lunch for work.
- I will turn off the TV an hour before bedtime for the next two weeks so that I can read.
- At least once per week, I will cook both dinner and breakfast using recipes from my favorite cookbook.
Setting small, achievable goals builds momentum and gives you confidence in your ability to achieve the more substantial long-term ones down the road!
Celebrate your successes, no matter how small.
Celebrating your successes keeps you motivated and helps you stay on track with your goals. It is easier to be successful when you are in the right frame of mind. If you feel like a failure, it will be hard to move forward. But if you know that everyone makes mistakes and that’s okay, it will be much easier to keep going when things don’t work out as well as they could have.
You can also learn from past mistakes so that they do not happen again!
TIP: If there is something specific about yourself or your performance that is causing stress or anxiety related to perfectionism – take time away from those triggers until your mindset gets better!
Try doing some self-care activities such as reading a book, watching TV shows, taking an exercise class, etc., listening to music while walking around outside without headphones on; anything at all!
Allowing yourself some space between these triggers may prove helpful in getting into a better mental state where nothing seems like doomsday anymore because no matter how imperfect they are now – can always work towards improvement through practice.”
Find a role model who has faced similar challenges and had similar disadvantages to yours, and still succeeded.
Growth-oriented people often have a person they look up to. This can be a celebrity or someone they admire from afar, but it’s even better if they find someone who is closer at hand—someone with whom they can build a relationship.
The most growth-oriented people look for inspirational figures who have had similar experiences to themselves. This means finding people you can relate to who have been through the same or similar things as you, even if your background is not always the ideal one that other people would want for themselves.
Using this type of role model will help you see how much is possible for yourself in spite of the odds stacked against you, and give you strength when facing your own trials in life.
Growth-oriented people are comfortable looking at their faults in a good way.
Growth-oriented people are comfortable looking at their faults in a good way. They understand that they can’t change the past and that mistakes happen. So when things go wrong, growth-oriented people are able to learn from them and then move on.
You’re probably familiar with the saying “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” This is an example of being able to see the positives in a negative. A similar idea is being able to see the silver lining–the benefit or good aspect of something bad. These are all examples of being able to find value in a mistake or failure.