How to work on your negative traits

Make a list of your negative traits

Before you can work on your negative traits, you need to figure out exactly which ones you’re dealing with. Otherwise, it’s like getting in the car and heading for Disneyland without a map: you might eventually get there, but it’ll take some luck and possibly involve some detours along the way. 

Take inventory of your negative traits by asking a friend for an objective opinion—just make sure it’s someone who will tell you the truth! You could also use feedback from your partner or family if they’re willing to be honest and not just say things to spare your feelings.

Next, take some time to reflect on each trait, which will help you understand where they came from this is called finding the root cause. Think back to a time when that trait caused problems or pain. 

  • Did someone else display that trait and hurt you? 
  • Were you around someone with this trait frequently growing up?
  • Is this something that has been holding you back professionally or personally? 

Find out what caused these traits to form inside of yourself; this will help inform how we’ll tackle them next.

Find out the root cause of these traits.

When it comes to your negative traits, one of the most effective strategies is to simply find out what caused them in the first place. While this may sound like an obvious or easy solution, many people don’t identify the root cause of their traits, or they just assume they know their root cause. If you are serious about overcoming your negative trait(s), make sure that you really figure out its source.

For example: A man has a short temper when he’s tired or frustrated by life problems and sometimes yells at his wife and kids over minor things such as having cold cereal for dinner instead of hot food or leaving lights on in random rooms throughout the house. 

He’s not fully aware why these minor issues irritate him so much since he knows his family isn’t doing anything intentionally mean-spirited; he’s tried everything from going for walks alone around his neighborhood to practicing deep breathing exercises every time he feels himself getting irritated at home with no long-lasting results. 

However, after years of feeling frustrated with himself over how easy it seems for others to “handle” situations like taking cold showers , eating fast food, and driving cars without air conditioners.

Set an attainable goal for each trait.

Once you’ve identified your negative traits and the areas in which you’d like to improve, it’s time to set some goals. Keep in mind that setting incredibly lofty or idealistic goals for yourself could make achieving them feel impossible, leading you to get discouraged and want to give up. On the other hand, if you don’t set goals at all—or just remember them vaguely in the back of your head—you’ll have a more difficult time making progress. 

Setting an attainable goal is important because it gives you something specific to work toward and allows you to track your progress along the way.

Mark milestones along the way! These are smaller, achievable targets that can help keep things from feeling overwhelming as you work toward larger goals. 

For example, someone who wants to become less prone to procrastinating could set a goal of catching up on overdue tasks by next week rather than completing all outstanding tasks by next month which may actually be unrealistic.

Make an action plan to reach that goal.

Let’s face it: Some of your bad habits might be holding you back. It’s easy to become discouraged by this list, but before you get down on yourself, remember that no one is perfect. Everyone has some flaws and quirks, but there are ways to work through them. 

As an introvert who finds it hard to talk to strangers, I’ve noticed that being more outgoing has helped me as a writer and allowed me to form better relationships with fans. And if you can’t stop hitting the snooze button or skipping in the gym, finding out how many calories you’re burning when you hit snooze each morning can help motivate you for extra workouts if your goal is weight loss. 

The key is making small changes in your life that add up over time—like buying yourself a new shirt every few months so that it fits better at all times—so taking this approach will help you think about smaller goals and be more proactive in achieving them.

Work on yourself everyday!

Change can be tough. That’s why it’s important to set aside time each day to work on your negative traits. You could even add an alert on your calendar to remind you of the time!

If you have a schedule, you’ll be more likely to remember and stick with it, especially if you make it into a habit. For example, if you decided that each morning at 9:00 a.m., for 20 minutes or so, you would focus on being less lazy and doing something productive instead—you might find yourself gradually growing accustomed to making good choices during this time slot, eventually reinforcing the new habit as second nature.

If life happens and prevents you from working on your negative traits one day—try not to get discouraged! Remember that it takes time for habits to take hold; think of each missed session as just another opportunity for growth next time around.

Some common negative traits:


Worrying is a bad habit that many people have. It’s a form of negative thinking that involves anxious thoughts and feelings about something in the future or the past. Worrying too much can take up a lot of time and energy, keep you awake at night, and get in the way of your productivity throughout the day.

Some people worry about everything from their relationships to their jobs to world events, but no matter what you’re worrying about, there are ways to prevent worry from taking over your life. There are also strategies for overcoming worry when it does arise.


If you’re prone to anger, it can be very difficult to keep from lashing out at others. The best way to control your anger is to deal with it as soon as it arises. Whenever possible, step away from the situation and count to 10 or take some deep breaths. If you find that your anger is escalating, don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Lashing out at others because of your own emotional issues is a form of bullying and never acceptable. Try not to use your emotions as an excuse when you know that you are doing something wrong. It will only make things worse in the long run, so take responsibility and apologize when necessary. Think before you act by asking yourself if getting angry over the issue is worth hurting someone else’s feelings.

It’s also important not to let negative feelings and resentment build up over time, because they can cause anger-related health problems like high blood pressure or depression. When we hold in our feelings of anger too long they often come out in irrational ways or against people who don’t deserve it at all! 

Learn what triggers these emotions so that you can avoid them before they become a problem


When it comes to guilt, there are a few points worth keeping in mind:

Guilt is a personality trait. When we feel shame, we typically focus on our own character and whether we are fundamentally “good” or not. We tend to look at guilt as a way of assessing our actions, but it can also be used as an assessment of our character. Guilt is commonly thought of as “a feeling that you have done something wrong or bad,” but if you think about it from the perspective of a personality trait rather than an emotion, you’ll see that you don’t always feel guilty when you’ve done something wrong or bad. 

For example, if someone insults your friend and you don’t stick up for them because you’re too nervous or too tired to do so, even though they were being insulting towards your friend and it’s clearly not okay to insult people in general, then your inaction was still very much wrong and bad—yet this doesn’t necessarily mean that you feel guilty about having failed to act. 


One of the most common negative traits is shyness, which is not only unwelcome in terms of approaching a love interest but can also interfere with your professional and personal life. Shyness can be understood as an instinctive fear or apprehension of people, or a feeling of awkwardness when interacting with new people. Everyone has experienced shyness at some point in their lives. 

However, if you’re consistently feeling shy during social situations or if your shyness is preventing you from being able to confidently approach a potential love interest, there are steps that you can take to overcome it.

The first step towards overcoming your shyness is to identify what exactly causes this feeling in yourself in the first place.

  •  Does responding to questions directed at you make you feel anxious? 
  • Are there particular people that make you feel more nervous than others? 

The next step is to practice your communication skills so that the next time that you interact with someone who makes you feel uneasy or overwhelming scrutiny from others makes it difficult for you to respond confidently and fluently, your practiced skills will help guide your response (more on this later).

Finally, it’s essential that if and when these uncomfortable feelings do arise during a conversation or interaction with someone else, try not to let it show too much—after all, an important part of overcoming any negative trait is being able to mask its effects on yourself.,


Self-doubt has the power to cripple, and it can show up in any number of ways. A seed of uncertainty planted by a negative comment or experience can lead to stress that affects your work, procrastination that affects your ability to get work done, and depression, which may cause you to isolate yourself.

To overcome self-doubt

  • Identify what triggers your doubts. Is it when things are not going well? When you’re feeling misunderstood or criticized? An identifiable trigger will help you learn how to recognize the signs of self-doubt before it takes over.
  • Make a list of your strengths. It’s easy for us to focus on our weaknesses, but identifying and celebrating our strengths is important as well. Stepping back from the situation that triggered your self-doubt with a fresh perspective can help you put things back into perspective as well.


Perfectionists can’t see the forest for the trees. They get so caught up in the details that they forget to look at the larger picture. They are never satisfied, which is a sign of immaturity. Like a child, they want everything to be “just so” and they throw tantrums when it’s not.

Perfectionists have a hard time finishing things because they’re never satisfied with their work. This leads to procrastination and self-loathing.

Perfectionists are their own worst critics and nothing is ever good enough for them.

If you improve your personality, it will improve your life and chances for success.

If you want to make the most of your life and be as successful as possible, then understanding the important role your personality plays will help. Improving your negative traits is one of the best things you can do for yourself, because they’re most likely holding you back in many areas of your life.

The following are some reasons why it’s beneficial to work on improving yourself:

  • Your personality determines how others perceive you. By having good social skills and an overall likable personality, people will find it easier to connect with you, which can help build long-lasting relationships. 
  • In addition to this, having a positive attitude about life and a generally outgoing demeanor will make people feel more comfortable around you, which could lead to promotions or other forms of success at work. 
  • If someone is rude or obnoxious though even if they’re talented, their chances are much lower because no one wants to spend time around those types! Even worse would be someone who has both poor emotional intelligence skills AND bad manners; they’d have almost no chance whatsoever! So working towards becoming more pleasant not only makes sense from an ethical perspective but also makes practical sense too! 
  • By working on improving yourself and becoming an even better version than before then there won’t need anything else aside from just being themselves in order for their partners still love them deeply.

You can make improvements in your life, even though they may be hard!

We are not suggesting that you give up because change is hard. In fact, we’re saying the opposite! Change can be difficult, but if you start out with too much hope and then become discouraged when you don’t achieve your goals, this will only make things worse.

If something doesn’t work out or you make mistakes, don’t beat yourself up over it—regard them as opportunities for growth. As long as you are making progress by setting small goals for yourself and achieving them regularly.

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